Feminist Mantra Monday 25: Be Alone
This week's mantra is a recognition of the deep-seated power each one of us holds at our core. It's an embrace of the fact that that power is incited and inspired and nurtured by others, but a reminder that at the end of a long day when we close our eyes to fall asleep that power is ours and ours alone.
2016 was the year that I learned that I was on my own in the world. Not that I didn't have a support network or community or family to fall back on. (I have those in abundance.) But that I was in control of my successes and failures, that nothing held me back except my own expectations.
Now, I know enough about patriarchy and capitalism and the like that I understand this isn't entirely true -- there are forces at play that can hold me back regardless of my will -- but I think this moment, the moment of realizing you're own your own, is the biggest step toward adulthood. It's the moment you feel your power for the first time. And it's hard. And it hurts. But it's also the most amazing gift.
As a woman, I spent the first 25 years of my life being told that a man would arrive to provide that power for me. Feeling my power for the first time meant giving up that romantic fantasy and embracing a new identity as a grown woman (more on that here). It's been a painful process of rethinking so many of my relationships and the gendered aspects of them, but it's also been a true joy to feel like I've finally awakened a part of my spirit that was dormant for so long.
This week's mantra is a reminder that it's important to spend time alone and to really feel alone sometimes in order to remember and refresh your personal power. How do you make time for those moments, loves? Let me know what inspires you when you do.