Feminist Mantra Monday 7: My Cup Runneth Over
I'm pretty sure that every blog post I've written here has talked about what a shit year 2016 has been. And maybe it has. But last week I had a drink with a friend I hadn't seen in a while, and after listening to me rehash things for the umpteenth time, he kindly reminded me how many wonderful people/places/things I have in my life right now and how much energy I've been spending on the negative people/places/things I've encountered this year. "Babe," he said, "your cup runneth over."
Turns out this was some life advice he'd gotten from Oprah (here!) in a talk about putting yourself first. Focusing on the negative is a way of focusing on everyone but yourself and giving your attention to people and things that don't deserve it. It's letting your cup run over and spill your life energy all over the floor.
In the conversation linked above, Oprah emphasizes how often women are told that the only way to be strong is to be selfless and give themselves to others. The problem is that giving it all away is a surefire way to have nothing left to give. Women can and should be strong, but in order to build strength (see last week's mantra!), Oprah reminds us that we don't need to be selfless but to be self-full.
Being self-full is giving ourselves to people/places/things that enrich and fulfill our lives. So this week, I'm refocusing. I'm meditating on all of the good things that happened this year, and I'm embracing the mantra "My cup runneth over" as an exclamation of how much good is in my life AND a reminder to keep that good energy in my life by not giving it to people and things that don't return it back to me.
What good has filled your cup in 2016, friends? How are you holding on to it?
P.S. Listen to the Making Oprah podcast; it's amazing and inspiring and a good reminder of your power.