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Summer Goals

Summer Goals

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Since summer is just kicking off, I wanted to write a bit about goal-setting in these crazy fun months. I don't know about anyone else, but normally I start June with high hopes and then find that it's suddenly September, and I've spent the past two months running around, drinking beer in the sun, and taking extra naps. Not that that's a bad thing *at all* but this year I'd like to accomplish a few things over the summer, especially because it's the season where I find myself having tons of extra energy as the days grow longer.

So how am I going to go about this? Well, over the past few years, I've developed a few *top secret* goal-setting methods that I want share. (Okay, they're not really top secret, but whatever.)

  1. Set goals that lean into the energy of the season. Every time I set a goal to be a social butterfly in the winter or a homebody in the summer, it fails 100%. Why? Because nobody wants to go out all the time when it's freezing or stay in when it's beautiful out. This example is a way of saying that it's important to be in touch with the times of year that you're the most introverted/extroverted/energetic/calm/introspective/circumspective/etc. Set goals that match where you're energy's at, and you're more likely to achieve them.
     
  2. Set goals by asking questions. When I go about goal-setting, I like to begin by reevaluating my wants/need/desires, and I find that to do so I need to ask myself a series of questions. They generally go something like: What do I want for X aspect of my life? What seems to be the best way to accomplish X? How can I work X into my daily life? I move the questions from big picture to manageable tasks, and set a very specific goal from there.
     
  3. Set goals in threes. This one is a trick that I learned from my dad. When I was growing up, my mom would ask him to run to the grocery store for something at least once a week. If her list got over three items, he'd pull out a sheet of paper and begin writing things down, saying "Wait. I can't keep more than three things in my head at a time." Whenever I go on a self-care/self-love/self-improvement binge, I often want to set a million goals at once, but I've learned to embrace my dad's truism and keep my mind on no more than three things at a time. Sometimes this means three goals at a time, and sometimes it means three steps toward one goal at a time, but three's become my magic number for goal-setting.

So all of that said, my three goals for this summer go something like:

  1. Develop a daily writing practice by writing something each morning *before* I check my email.
  2. Launch the Your Feminist Life Instagram.
  3. Embrace my all-around babeliness *aka* spend more time outside in the sun, and let my limbs hang out with no shame or regard for what others think.


What are your goals for this summer, loves? Comment below and let's check in with each other.

Always,
A

GIF by the ever-inspiring Jocelyn Tsaih.

 

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